Coming off the Bench: The 1st String Side Chick

    One team comes to mind for my perfect real-life analogy for a true "Side Chick" situation:  The New York Knicks (since February 6, 2012).  Before your face gets stuck in that screwed up mug at me, think about it...Carmelo Anthony and Amare Stoudemire are D'Antoni's "Main Chicks" while Jeremy Shu-How Lin is my depiction of a Side Chick:  He's a consistent player who works hard, plays his position well, and gives you everything you want in a player, all without an ego or a primadonna attitude one comes to expect from a Super-star (diva) athlete.  Jeremy Lin, though a leader who captained his high school team to a championship run, then became a success at Harvard, was unable to get a basketball scholarship, and went undrafted for the league...in other words, he showed great promise and talent BUT STILL NO ONE WAS WILLING TO COMMIT TO HIM.  Now what happens?  The Knicks heavily recruited and sought after assets, after all the dinner dates and trips out of town, are not in position to run the team due to injury and family tragedy, and Lin gets his chance to shine...and 5 games later, only a few sports writers have broached the subject of the elephant in the stadium:  What happens when Anthony and Stoudemire return to play?
    
      Lin will probably be forced back into a supporting, non-scoring role once the two Mains get back in the picture...(though I would love to see him be D'Antoni's new Steve Nash...who is one of my favorite players EVER)...but...the world of relationships and basketball are NOT the same in all ways...in dating, the MAIN CHICK CAN BE REPLACED...QUICKLY.   But...I'm just saying...The Knicks are going to cater to their superstars...especially with the millions they've invested. 

     Contrary to the popular myth held by most women and perpetrated by most men, Side Chicks are not just the bitches men fuck on the side.  Whatever you may call them, for the purpose of giving my readers an understanding of my perspective, the woman on the side is usually someone a man WANTS in his life, and is someone for whom he is willing to put in work, and I'm calling her the 1st String Side Chick.  Other women I will discuss in this blog, and ultimately the book for which this blog was started include the Main Chick, The Bookmark Chick, Jump-offs, and 2nd-4th string Sidelines.   

    In situations where my understanding of the term "Side Chick" is applicable, the only real 'advantage' (if we can call it such) that the "Main Chick" has over her, is that she has a man's last name, or lives with him.  HOWEVER, as far as a real side chick is concerned, a man may provide a home for the Main, which is evident because he usually lives WITH her there, but trust and believe, he's also providing for the home of the Side Chick as well.  Not every man who cheats has this kind of relationship...thus, he does not have a true Side Chick...he has women with whom he is having a sexual relationship. They MAY be POTENTIAL candidates for the position of THE SIDE CHICK, which is definitely a position because it speaks of a CONSISTENT interaction.  Side Chicks have rights and privileges: she gets quality time, and though his conversations with her may be seemingly more honest, he does what he must to also protect her feelings. 

     There is some component in a man's view of his relationships which determine a woman's role as the Main or Side Chick, but it does not have to be based on a timeline, so the thoughts that "I was here first" does not guarantee position in the hierarchy.  Main chicks, at least outside of basketball, are determined by what works...a woman can be benched...indefinitely. 

     I honestly believe there are some men who HAVE to cheat...tryin to fill a void within themselves.  A man can not fully maintain a complete relationship with a woman until he has come to know himself as a complete man.

TO BE CONTINUED...